Philosophers and psychologists have done a lot for people to be wiser and happier. However, so far not found a cure for one of the properties of human nature: simple and clear explanations are less valuable than the intricate and complex. As a result, even after receiving empirically prove the truth of the simple thought, we can not listen to it. So again and again we will use the old-fashioned way: repetition.
We present our twenty-psychological paradoxes, of which all are well aware, but always forget about them.
People who can not be trusted, can not be trusted
Sometimes we protect ourselves in a strange way: do hurt, not to make us sick. With the confidence of the situation is exactly the same. In order not to be deceived, you can not trust anyone and credibility. This catastrophic approach to relationships is able to destroy many.
We can not bear people with the same drawbacks as we
Carl Jung believed that the features of the other people who have them are concerned, are a reflection of their own. Freud called this projection. It’s time to look at yourself objectively and impartially why it annoys me that a lack of another person?
The more we try to impress others, the less impressive
Probably, the thing affectedness and insincere. Bad actors can only smile and bewilderment. Their words, thoughts and deeds are not harmonious.
The more something frightening, the more necessary to do so
List your fears. Perhaps it is the fear of talking to an attractive man, speaking in public, finding a new job, creating a new business. These things scare just because they have to be made.
The more we have setbacks, the higher the probability of success
It is possible to insert a quote almost any successful person or a genius – from Thomas Edison to Michael Jordan. Success is possible thanks to the improvement of skills, and it, in turn, will not arise without frequent errors and failures.
The more we are afraid of death, the less we enjoy life
Psychologically any fear paralyzes the desire to be happy and to be happy. The fear of death is one of the most powerful.
The more we know, the more clearly understand that we do not know anything
The dictum of Socrates will never be forgotten and questioned for a simple reason: every time we come to a deep understanding of the essence of things, it creates dozens of new questions.
The more connections and acquaintances, the more the feeling of loneliness
All of us, there are only 24 hours a day, and the man is not immortal. A large number of friends and acquaintances leads to the fact that all relationships are superficial. Anyone not giving enough time.
The less we care about others the less take care of yourself
This may seem somewhat contradictory, but experience shows that if we behave with other people badly, and not a trace. We destroy the soul, or psychology, there’s who he believes.
The higher the fear of failure, the more likely a failure
Science has not yet substantiated the mechanism of self-fulfilling prophecies, but we all know that it works. Moreover, both positive and negative sides.
The more accessible something is, the less value it represents
Human nature remains unchanged: if something is a deficit, it seems more valuable. Accordingly paperush, it is not thankful for what is – also part of it. And yet it can be learned.
The more we force ourselves, the harder it is to reach the goal
When we think that it will be difficult, this idea is transformed and enters the subconscious. The phrase “it will be very difficult,” should disappear from the life of any person. Because it will be interesting, fun and exciting. It’s all in the perception of any event.
The best way to find the other half – do not look for it
We like the strong and independent people, so it is drawn to him. Self-sufficient people seem confident and solid. Do not look desperate love of life, develop themselves and get pleasure from a simple communication – such unobtrusive attracts much more.
The closer we are to be a man, the more it alienate
This approach gives rise to jealousy that leads to a commitment to love, to feel and to be faithful.
Sincerity in recognizing their own mistakes cause other people a sense of our ideal
The vulnerability is striking: it is necessary to point out their mistakes, as we begin to seem strong and great.
The more we have a choice, the less we are satisfied with each of them
When we make a choice, it automatically rejects other options. The more choices, the stronger the feeling that lost more than bought.